It seems so easy at a non-gay wedding. There is a bride’s side and a groom’s side, and you tell the usher if you are a friend of the bride or groom and he seats you accordingly. You are now at a gay wedding…….on which side of the aisle do you sit?
The simplest option: select the side with the fewer guests and ask to be seated as close to the front as possible. Doesn’t everyone want to be as close as possible? I certainly do, and I love having the aisle seat so I do not miss a thing during the processional and recessional.
Perhaps the brides (or the grooms) have instructed their ushers on which side to seat Jane’s friends and on which side to seat Sally’s friends. This is no different than the ushers asking, “Are you a friend of the bride or groom?” The question now becomes, “Are you a friend of Jane or Sally?”
It is really all pretty straight forward. I think what throws people is that a gay wedding is different than what they are used to…..this time there are two brides or two grooms. Perhaps they have never been to a gay wedding before. Therefore they think, “I don’t know what to do.” I maintain you do know what to do. Two people are getting ready to stand up in front of their friends and family and declare their life-long love and commitment to one another. You are there to support them and celebrate this special day with them. Your common sense will fill in the blanks.
Here is my advice: Get the best seat you can (do remember to act politely) or follow instructions! How can it be any easier!