In the spirit of loving friends, famliy, fun & self-deprecating humor, we are pleased to introduce a new series to our Gay Wedding Fodder readers: It’s My Wedding And I Can Cry If I Want To. Several couples have expressed an interest in sharing the stories of their wedding journies with Gay Wedding Fodder and we are pleased to share this space with them. Each is in a different place in the wedding planning process but all love to weave a good yarn and all are happy to share with us their trials & tribulations, inspirations & tips, and tears of joy and tears of disappointment or dismay. Perhaps you’ll recognize a bit of your relationship in these intallments?
Carey & Michele – The Beginning
Michele and I met in May of 2004 online, at PlanetOut.com. Michele had just moved to Arizona from Los Angeles 3 weeks prior to our meeting, and had gotten out of a 7 year relationship only a few months prior to that. I had been living in Arizona since 1997 and had been single for about 2 years prior to meeting Michele.
Both of us had been actively meeting people online for a few months. In fact, just before we met, I had been corresponding online with 4 different women named Michele! What are the odds?
I emailed Michele because I was impressed with how down-to-earth and sincere her profile seemed. I thought it was hilarious when I learned that I had met yet another Michele and thought to myself: “this has got to be the one!”
Michele called that night and we met in person at Starbucks a few hours after our first chat. For me, the attraction was instant and the first thing that went through my mind was: “I am going to marry this woman!”
For Michele, the process was a little slower (due to the previous long term relationship having just recently ended) but she soon learned you can’t fight destiny and she came around within about a month!
In February of 2005, Michele was on business in San Francisco and I flew in to meet her for the weekend. Unbeknownst to me, Michele had already called my parents to let them know she would be proposing (news which made my parents ecstatic!).
Michele’s plan was to propose to me in the Japanese Gardens, but she was too excited and ended up proposing to me in our hotel room a few hours after I arrived!
We told Michele’s parents over dinner shortly after we returned from San Franciso and they were very gracious and happy for us. They will be hosting an “after wedding” dinner in our honor for our out of town friends and family the night after wedding. We are very lucky to have such a large group of family and friends who are supportive of our relationship and our marriage.
We moved in together in June of 2005, purchased a home together in December of that year, and set a wedding date shortly thereafter. Our wedding date is October 27, 2006, and we are planning a big Hawaiian luau wedding.
So far, the wedding planning process has been bumpy but wonderful and we look forward to sharing our adventure with you!
Editor’s Note: Would you and your partner like to participate in our Blog Serial, It’s My Wedding & I Can Cry If I Want To? Learn more about the series and contact Kathryn.