10. Book our ceremony and reception locations before we order our invitations and annouce our wedding date.
9. Upgrade my wedding ring from silver to platinum or band to diamonds, much to the surprise of my unsuspecting partner.
8. Omit the Funky Chicken, Macarena, Electric Slide, Hokey Pokey and other overplayed wedding songs from our reception song list and tell the DJ that if she plays them, there will be trouble.
7. Request a heavy rotation of the Funky Chicken, Macarena, Electric Slide, Hokey Pokey and other overplayed wedding songs in my reception song list and tell the DJ that if he doesn’t play them, there will be trouble.
6. (For the lesbians without fashion experience) Memorize the materials and cut of my dress or bridal suit now to avoid awkward pauses every time I will be asked, ‘What will you be wearing?’
5. Write a letter to my local, state or federal representative this year sharing my story and asking them to support same sex marriage or sending them a note of thanks if they already do.
4. (For the gay men with fathers who aren’t quite sure what to make of all of this) Tell Dad that he doesn’t have to dance with my partner during the parents’ dance if he isn’t comfortable doing so or suggest that perhaps he might be more comfortable with a ‘fast’ song so that they won’t have to fight over who should lead.
3. Decide if we are calling this a holy union, gay wedding, commitment ceremony, wedding, domestic partnership, civil partnership, civil union, or commitment celebration.
2. Come up with a few other (non-wedding) topics of interest to share with my friends in the event that they get cross-eyed and tune out when we begin talking about our wedding planning every time we go out.
1. Find a friend or planner to oversee the activities on the day of our wedding so that we can enjoy and be fully present with each other and with our loved ones during one of the most significant — and oft-times overwhelming — day of our lives.
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