Do you live in the New York / Tri-State Area?
A great, free city rag (whose primary demographic is the ladies!) -- Go NYC Magazine -- just published a Wedding Resource Guide, which recommends a few knowledgeable vendors -- including yours truly!
You'll find all kinds of sources -- from invitations to rings to vendors.
Speaking of vendors, we've added to our directory a number of vendors who are interested in serving the GLBT community in the NY/NJ/CT area.
New York
Connecticut
New Jersey
I've had personal conversations with most of them -- especially our celebrants -- and hope that you'll consider contacting them if you need help with your wedding planning.